This is an especially embarrassing circumstance for families who have previously been "flush". We’ve been approached by such families, and I thought that what I’ve shared would be worth passing along to our entire list. Certainly, this won’t fit everyone, but if it’s you …  read on.

1. If you ever hope to pay off your credit card debt, pay more than the minimum payment each month.
If you only pay the minimum payment each month, your bill could continue to INCREASE, even if you completely stop using your card. This is called "negative amortization"–where you think you are paying on your debt but the additional fees and finance charges are more than the minimum payment. The bottom line is: Pay more than your minimum or you will eventually be in debt over your head.  

2. Implement a regular *system* for credit card debt reduction.
With online banking and automatic payment options, there are GREAT tools for ensuring you don’t mess up because of administrative chaos. If you feel you can’t manage all your bills by pen and paper, there are several good software programs available for keeping track of your financial records.

In fact, I recommend that you automate a payment ABOVE the minimum monthly payment, just to be certain that you start getting ahead of the game. Those minimum payments are rigged against you, and the only way to get ahead is to … get ahead. I have some more thoughts on automation in a moment.

3. You can negotiate with your credit card company.
No, you do not need to be an attorney or other professional to negotiate with your credit card company (you will need patience and persistence though). The rising amount of consumer debt in this country has made creditors realize that they need to be more understanding of their customers — if they hope to get any money back. If you file bankruptcy they are only going to get pennies on the dollar, so they are willing to make deals.

4. Write letters to each of your creditors acknowledging your debt and the situation, and tell each one when you can begin repayment.
Open communication always helps. Usually credit card companies get ignored and end up sending delinquent files to a collections agency. So they’ll actually appreciate your openness in contacting them and may be more understanding of your situation. Proactively dealing with your debt problem rather than hiding will not only help your financial problem but make you feel better about yourself.

5. Keep track of what you are able to pay each creditor every month.
If you are not able to pay the full amount of your credit each month, you still should still pay something to stay on top of it. You should work off a written budget so you know exactly where you stand. Some experts suggest that you divide your monthly debt budget by the percentage each bill makes of the total and pay that amount.

Here’s an example: If you owe a total of $10,000, and one credit card is $8000 and the other is $2000, and you only have $1000 available to pay for that month… You should pay $800 on the $8000 balance, and $200 on the $2000 balance. This way you are reducing each debt by the same percentage.  

Make a Video.
You can use the video setting on your phone or digital camera, and create a heartfelt message of love for your sweetie. Then, post it to YouTube, Vimeo or another online video-sharing site and send it on! Um, just be sure to make that video setting to "private" unless you want to share with the world your dying love for your honey (hopefully with clothes on!).

Learn a Romantic Song and Sing it to Your Sweetheart.
Well, I’m no singer, so I can’t say I’ve tried this … but I hear it works well. Even better, if you can’t sing, your valentine will give you kudos for the effort! You could step it up by writing an original song and then sing it. Or, for the slightly-less courageous, you could pull a page out of John Cusack’s book in Say Anything and hold a boombox (or iPod) above your head and blare Peter Gabriel’s "In Your Eyes". That seemed to work.

Not a singer? More of a writer? Or artist? For the otherwise artistically inclined:

- You could pen a poem on nice paper
- or even paint it
- You can paint a picture of your honey. Just be sure it looks good.

The "Mix Tape" (or Playlist)
This is an old standby of high school kids everywhere. Except these days, the "tape" part is a bit less convenient. Instead, make a CD or mp3 playlist of Sweet Love Songs and make a cover list/ liner notes on the memories of you and your honey from the songs. And you can make a Personalized Photo Album using Shutterfly or a service like it.

Romantic Picnic
Surprise your love with a ‘picnic’ in the park, at the beach, or any other outdoor nature spot. If the weather isn’t ideal for outdoors, you could bring the outdoors inside — find a fake palm tree, flowers, sand, beach umbrella, radio, towels (borrow them). Nothing says "I love you" like fake palm trees!

Well, don’t get complacent.

A number of our clients and others are planning very aggressively and taking significant advantage of what may be a small window of opportunity. After all, we don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

You see, after the temporary suspension in 2010, the estate tax had been poised to jump to 55% with a $1 million exemption, or $2 million for couples.  Instead, the rate was set at 35% for two years and applies only to estates worth more than $5 million, or $10 million for couples.

However, the word "temporary" occurs 43 times in the 2010 tax act’s 30 pages. That is simply a fact we have to take into consideration in our financial plans, as a result.

In the end, many clients who don’t have $5million in assets are driven to do an estate (wisely) in order to avoid chaos and discord among beneficiaries, to avoid probate, and to protect children from mismanaging their inheritance. We see that all the time.

Much of the reason for this is because of misconceptions about estate planning, and I dealt with two already:

Myth 1. Only rich people prepare estate plans.

Myth 2. Everything goes to your spouse, if something happens.

Well, I’ve got three more for you to chew on, and dispense with.

Myth 3. After I create my will or living trust, there’s nothing else to think about.

Well, if you follow this line of thinking, it could lead to a lot of problems. For instance, once you set up a trust, you need to re-title the assets you want to transfer to the trust. Otherwise, the trust doesn’t help a thing.

On top of that, families need to periodically update their will or trust to reflect major life events, such as a divorce or the birth of a child. You’ll also want to revisit your estate plan if you move to another state.

In fact, it’s a good idea to meet with us every 3 or 4 years to make sure your plan is fully up-to-date. (Which, incidentally, we provide free to certain clients. Ask us about that.)

Myth 4. If I have a will, my estate automatically won’t go through probate.

Well, again–that’s not the case. In fact, ALL wills are subject to "probate".  This is a process in which a court determines whether the document is actually valid and ensures that relatives and creditors are notified. This process can take several months and drain thousands of dollars from your estate.

So here’s one way to avoid that entirely–create that living trust. Essentially, a living trust is a legal document you create which holds property (such as brokerage accounts and real estate). When you die or are incapacitated, the property is smoothly transferred to your beneficiaries. This transfer occurs outside of the probate process, which saves a TON of hassle.

Not everyone needs one of these documents, but it’s something which you can’t paint over with a broad brush. Which is why it’s important to walk with a competent guide on these matters.

By the way, if you own property in more than one state, a living trust is a no-brainer. Going through probate in multiple states is a nightmare.

Another advantage to a living trust is privacy. A will is a public document, and anyone can come to the probate hearing to see if any fights break out. Living trusts aren’t published in any courthouse, so people can’t gain easy access to them. That’s quite nice.

Myth 5. I could be held responsible for a deceased parent’s debts.

No, you’re not responsible for credit card debts from your parents.

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